You are going to read a newspaper article about tosing your job. Choose from the list A-I the sentence which best summarises each part (1-7) of the article. There is one extra sentence which you do not need to use. There is an example at the beginning (0).
A Others are often blamed for a situation seen as hopeless.
B Ignore the whole situation so that you do not do anything foolish.
C Finding a sympathetic ear is a positive step.
D See the situation as a step forward, not a step backward.
E Initial reactions are often a sense of shock and panic.
F Along with acceptance comes the decision to take control of your own life.
G Recognise that it is all right to feel sad.
H Organise your day in order to organise your life.
I Losing a job means more than just losing your income.
What do you do when you lose your job?
lf you’ve recently become unemployed, you may be asking yourself, ‘Why didn’t 1 see it coming? What could 1 have done to keep my job? What’s wrong with me?’ When you lose a job, you lose far more than just a wage. You lose your faith that hard work pays off. You lose part of your identity, because, to some extent, you define yourself by your job. You are no longer sure who you are or what you can do. You lose some self-esteem.
It is common to mourn the loss of a job and go through certain stages. At first you feel like you don’t have the strength to do anything. During the first few weeks the thought of ‘this can’t be happening to me’ sits in your mind. The longer you have spent with an employer, the longer the numbness may last. You can’t imagine yourself working for anyone else. You tend to panic. You’re afraid and you don’t know what to do. You might start imagining selling your home or being forced to ask family or friends for a loan just to buy food. You worry about what to tell your relatives and friends. This nervousness could cause headaches and stomach problems.
‘After all the effort 1 put into my job: you think, ‘I don’t deserve to lose it: You find yourself venting your anger on innocent members of your family, the kids, shop assistants, even innocent bystanders. When you start searching for another job, it’s not easy. ‘Why apply for a job that’s advertised in the paper: you say to yourself. ‘I’ll never get it. Nobody wants me.’
You slowly come to believe what has happened, and you begin looking for a job with a more realistic attitude, accepting you’ll have good and bad experiences. You know you’ll feel low when you’ve been turned down, but you’re optimistic that one of these days, you’ll find the right job. ‘This is my life and I’ve got to get on with it: becomes your attitude.
There are some ways to help you handle the anxiety of going through these stages. Here are some suggestions. You must realise that feeling miserable when you’ve lost a job and are out of work is normal. It is not a sign of weakness.
Friends, family members and acquaintances can sometimes help find you jobs, encourage you and cheer you on. Confide in your partner, but don’t lean too hard on them. They may be feeling anxious too, and your fears will only add to theirs.
lf you’re not ready to phone employers first thing in the morning, how about planning to do something else that’s constructive. Take a brisk walk; exercise at home; you could even learn a foreign language. The more active you are, the less miserable you will feel.
Don’t blame yourself for losing your job. Keep your eyes on what you have to gain by this event, and not what you have to lose. You have a chance to rediscover other things in life and develop friendships; take this opportunity to do so. Be open, ready and waiting when the right career opportunity comes along.